I had issues with the FVCM Module while updating with SIPS and i had to use replace function to get it working again. Think i had tried a dozen Times and it failled in between with No logical explanation. Finally it did Work and Just needed recalibration. IPK is still Open for me. Thanks to @haloweenhamster Info I kept trying.
I assume that something in the car either goes to sleep or blocks the Bus.
Also not sure If the VNCI that i had used is slower than the original part and it times out.
For BMC i have No Idea how to recover from the state, could be possible to contact the dealer to tow you in. Or do you think of BCM, that would be body control Module, that may coordinate the Basic functionality of the car. To be honest i wouldn't say a word about self updating, I assume they can figure out through SIPS logfiles, but this situation should not occur to be honest. That the car Turns off during the Update is normal, it came Back after updating. Hope you didn't Panic in this state and disconnected the Battery.
Edit: My bad you already stated its BCM, Sorry